Saturday, February 25, 2012

so tired....

so today has already started off bad... didnt really sleep well last night as my back was killing me!

  hoping to get to go second handing today...  well see if that happens... supposed to go with a friend... if not then ill go by myself.

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

family isnt who you think it is...

A few years ago... some people in my "family" thought it was uncool to learn about my pregnancy via facebook... Yeah it was wrong.. i understand that... i apologized...  but when they turned around and decided to make me find out about an engagement via facebook but they get mad when i was upset about it? yeah... totally fucked up... SO today i have learned... My family consists of my parents.. my kids... my husband whom i love more then life its self, and my friends who have always been there for me... So i hope you realize who you are and what you mean to me....  If you dont know feel free to ask what you mean...  I am all for announcing things to friends via facebook if they arent around but seriously? you bitch at people because they did something and make them feel horrible for it.. but yet you do it and dont freaking care what others think? yeah... really nice.... 

 I am off to bed... i dont need stress and my arms are killing me... 

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

shameless plug!

http://rainroofinstantcoffee.blogspot.com

One of my favorite blogs to follow... No you dont have to tell her i sent you.. but she is a writer with published works... Has a few novellas coming out and i have had the chance to meet her face to face.. She is a fellow military wife and a mom. She is a college student while doing all of this.  She isnt afraid to tell you how it is or be harsh...  ( Love that!) And we tend to have some stuff in common.. so hop over and check her out!

what a night!

So last night was rougher then rough! Little A decided she was going to cry in her sleep all night... and some of you might recall she sleeps in our room. SO needless to say she wakes Big A and i up. NOT FUN.

Tonight my husband is making pulled BBQ Chicken! Yay i looooooove BBQ Chicken!

He just put some Chicken Breasts ( boneless skinless) in the crock pot.. put a little bit of water and dumped some BBQ sauce in it! Gonna cook it all day today!!!! My mouth it watering just thinking of it!!! lol

Monday, February 20, 2012

New Contest!

who likes scentsy and bath and body works???? I have some stuff i am gonna give away in a contest!!!! Here is how the contest works... Who ever refers the most people to my Blog or facebook page... by the 24th... ( must like page.... and comment on wall with YOUR name or follow blog and post on this post in the comments)  will get their choice of a full size bath and body works out of my lot, or 5 hand sanitizers or 1 bar of scentsy.. or 3 white lid testers... I will have them all typed out.. 2nd place will get 3 hand sanitizers, or 1 bar, or 2 testers... So from today till the 24th!!! spread the word!!!!!!!!!!

My nephew called a retard... NOT OK!

Katie ( last name removed)
A Michaels store cashier called my son a “Retard” here is the story of what happened!

On Monday my husband, my son and myself all went to Michaels in Longview to get some supplies to make my son Elijah “eli” a pre-school bulletin board to have here at the house. My son who does have special needs… Eli has what is known as Sensory Processing Disorder and is also mildly autistic. While waiting in line Eli saw an Iron Man coloring book by the register. He asked if he could have it and when my husband told him “no” because we were going to get to Target next to buy him the movie “Cars 2” my son began to have a meltdown. Now I don’t know how many of you have seen or been around a child with special needs who has a full blown meltdown but they get very loud, very aggressive with hitting, kicking, biting and screaming… and it can last for literally hours if they get upset enough.
As soon as Eli started to get upset and started to scream my husband picked him up and quickly carried him towards the store doors and was taking him outside to help calm him down. We did not want to disturb the other customers or the employees and we wanted to quickly as possible calm our son. I stayed in line to pay for our purchases. As my husband was heading to the door the Cashier for Michaels whose name is “Colleen” looked at my son and then said quite loudly to the lady who she was currently ringing up “Can’t that retarded kid walk” and she nodded at my son. She said it loud enough that I heard her clear as a bell and I was behind 3 other ladies in her line.
When I got up to the register she smiled at me and asked how I was doing. I told her I needed to speak with a manager because the child she had just been rude about was my son. She looked at me and LAUGHED and said “oh I’m sorry bout that…are you washington or oregon resident?” and she started to ring up my purchases. She was NOT taking me seriously at all. I told her again I wanted a manager. She then paged Fern the store manager who told her that she was also on a register and it would be a minute. I told the cashier I would wait to speak with Fern. As I was signing my reciept Fern walked over to the register and before I could even say a word to her the cashier waved her away and indicated that everything had been taken care of. I again asked the cashier to re-page the manager.I was asked to wait right inside the doors of the store and that she would get her.
More than 10 minutes went by and I was still waiting. At that point another employee came over and asked if I needed any help. I told her I needed to speak with a manager because Colleen had just insulted my son. That employee paged Fern who then came up and spoke with me. I told Fern the entire story just as I have told you and I told her that the cashier had called my son a “retard” and that I expected something to be done about it. I was ASSURED and GUARANTEED that she would personally take care of it and that the employee would be disciplined. I left the store and went home. That was Monday. That night I also sent Corporate an e-mail explaining what had happened and as of 5 minutes ago I still HAVE NOT heard back from them about it.
On Wednesday I heard from a friend who was in the store that Colleen was working the register. I was very upset because I expected a woman who calls a child a retard to be fired. I called and spoke with Fern again. She told me that she had written Fern up and that was all she felt needed to be done. I asked for a corporate or a district managers phone number. After a few minutes of me asking I was NOT given a number but was personally guaranteed by Fern that the district manager would be in the store on Thursday and that she would have her call me and talk with me directly. So today (Thursday) I waited all day for a call from the district manager and I did not get one. At 3:00pm I called the store and again spoke with the manager Fern who informed me that the District manager HAD been in the store and had already left. Fern told me that the District Manager had not felt it was high enough on her priority list to call me directly and for Fern to deal with it herself. Fern then went on to tell me that she felt she had dealt with the situation in an acceptable matter by writing the employee up. I asked her what the write up consisted of and she told me that basically they scolded the employee told her not to be rude and had her sign a paper saying she had been spoken to about the matter. She was then allowed to go back to her register.
I had to threaten to call the news station today just to get a phone number for the district manager. Fern is also trying to say that her employee would NEVER call a child such a name and that I was just upset and not being rational and that she could not fire her employee without corporate approval however she did not feel her employee did anything that required being fired. She then began to argue with me saying I needed to let it go, be happy with how it was handled and basically that NOTHING was going to be done about it. Fern is now backing up her employee!! Before I hung up with her she did ask that I not make this a public manner because she did not want negative publicity for herself, the store employee or the store in general. YES she actually asked me to please keep what had happened quiet and NOT tell anyone.
I finally got a number for the district manager and I left her a voice mail. She did call me back and she said she would need at least several days because I was telling her a different story than she had heard from the store manager. The District manager also gave the impression that she was not concerned about the way my son was treated and she also tried to tell me the situation had been taken care of by giving the employee a verbal warning. I have been blown off by the store manager, district manager and Corporate.
The worst part about this is that my son was not all the way out of the store when the cashier called him the name and later that night Eli came up to me and asked me “Mommy why I a retard?” now I ask you all….how do I answer that? I have had several of my family call the store and they were also given the run around by the store manager Fern. Fern even went so far as to hang up on people who have called. I have called the news papers, the local news stations and all of them have told me the same thing. They can’t run a story on this because it is my word against the store employee. I am asking that everyone who feels this is wrong to please call the store manager Fern and let her know it is not ok to protect an employee who calls special needs children “retarded”.
My son is beautiful, he is amazing, he has his own special light that makes everyone who meets him fall in love with him! For him to be called something as horrible as “Retarded” is not right and I think the woman who said this should be fired!

Thursday, February 16, 2012

testing.

SO Big A and i have decided that we want to try again...  month 3 we get 2 pos. blood test comes back and they say no...  no clue why i would get 2 pos tests ( 1 at home 1 at dr) and then a neg blood test... im not on any meds or diets so nothing to affect it... unless we are having a MC. but i dont know how between a 2 hour difference we can go from 25lvl to a <2 lvl. i am sooo frustrated.

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

its been awhile!

Well Its been awhile...

So whats new with me?

a whole lot of nothing! lol  doesnt that sound boring? to me it does!

we are trying to get a compassionate reassignment... we will see if that happens.. if not were stuck here till oct. oh joy.

we have a new dog. and a new cat.

Little A can count and spell.
Little L. well he can just about run now!

Saturday, November 26, 2011

a little annoyed...

why is it everytime my phone rings and its my friends i answer but half the time when i call them they dont? if my friends need something i am the first to jump... but when i need something its always excuses?

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Train derails on Fort Carson | koaa.com | Colorado Springs | Pueblo |

Train derails on Fort Carson | koaa.com | Colorado Springs | Pueblo |


this is awesome! i always find things like this awesome! only when people dont get hurt... Its pretty interesting to watch the mechanics of trains and how it runs on the tracks and how it derails and people have to get it back on the tracks... call me weird.. but i think its pretty nifty...

Monday, November 14, 2011

depressed.

I wish my siblings knew what they have... I just dropped my parents off at the airport so they could fly home.. I miss my parents sooo very much.

Sometimes i hate the military and i hate being sooooo far from home.

Thursday, November 03, 2011

Looking back.

Looking back in my life there are so many moments when i think WTF was i thinking?  Like seriously?

Ill describe a few of them for you all...

Whatonka high school grade 9. I wasnt popular.. i didnt have many friends but the friends i did have i thought cared.  They werent the best people in the world and if given the chance today, would i be friends with them? NO. Would i want my kids to be friends with them? NO. But i was young and rebellious so i did what they wanted me to do. I was tired of moving.. i just wanted friends. I missed my friends from my old school so i thought this was the way to do it. There are many times i held drugs for my friends or kept them in my locker. I would go home and wash my clothes and my hands afraid someone might smell it or see it, likes its written on my forehead or something.

Simms high school Grade 10-11.  Kevin Bobick... What can i say.. A cowboy in tight jeans... hell i dont know what i was thinking.. he was a twin but his twin was sooooo much cuter! lol I sit back now and i look at his picture and i seriously just want to hit myself. I got alot of shit in school about it, because a few letters i wrote to "friends" landed up in his hands... Yup that was fun.. Kinda like getting a pap smear. lol
I had 1 or 2 awesome friends there. They were great influences in my life. I am still friends with a few of them and they have touched my life more then they know. So if you went to this school you know who you are!

Milwaukie high. Grade 12.  Wow.. that was a crazy year. All my friends that i had... always at peoples houses.. But the funny thing most of them all younger. My bests were freshman my senior.  But they have stuck around. There were fights over guys... and fights over stupid stuff but we always worked it out.  But one that sticks out.. Mikey. WTH was i thinking? Oh yeah.. the bad boy image.. seriously? why would i want someone who was in and out of jail, couldnt stay in school. Hell he didnt even really know anything.  I am glad i finally figured that one out!

Now on to some major learning stones and mistakes.

Philip. WTF again? why? was it was because he was older? that independent nature? I dont know what it was, but at that time apparently i wanted to be with a married man... I was THAT woman.. I now apologize to his ex wife I truely am sorry.

Alex... He will always have a place in my heart.. Always.. i cant really say anything bad about him because he was such a big part of my life. But he used me. He used me for his pleasure and broke my heart.

Nate. Again he will always hold a place in my heart. He was a marine... Alas it wasnt meant to be... Again broken heart.

There are many things i have done that i think back on and im like WTF.. i just dont get what i was thinking....  I hope my children learn from my mistakes and actually listen to my husband and i like i didnt my parents...  Anyways.. heres a little look into my past.

Friday, October 28, 2011

DO you ever wonder?

Think back 10 yrs... what were you doing???

Me i was 18. In high school.  YOu know being a senior! GO MUSTANGS! ( sorry haha), out with friends doing things before curfew ( for those of you who had one.)

Do you wonder what your life would be like if only something that year didnt happen the way it did? Would you have met your spouse sooner, or not at all?  Would you have your kids?

Today i have just sat back and looked at my life, now that i have turned 28. Where am i? Am i where i wanted to be? Where am i supposed to be at 28????

I have my husband.... god bless him... ( come home safe baby), I have my babies... love them to death! but i dont have much more.. i dont have a degree, i dont have a career. Does that make me a bad person? Does that make me lazy?

Im just totally lost and its like i am in a maze and totally confused on where the hell i am supposed to go and what the hell i am supposed to be doing...

first thing in the morning..

I hate getting out of bed. I wish i could lay there and waste the day away. Not have to get up and worry about 1 kid who is up my ass all day and needy and the other one who throws temper tantrums all the time. I just wish that i could get up when i want to get up and just relax before i get my day started. As you can tell i am NOT a morning person.  I have been out of bed 6 min.35 secs and my daughter has already gotten in trouble 3 times. I have already changed 1 diaper, gotten 2 kids something to drink and my daughter is acting like i starve her. Cant mommy just sit for 10 mins?

Yesterday i was just sooo exhausted i canceled one of my appts. I just couldnt drag myself out that early. I would have had to get the kids to the daycare by 9. to my appt by 10, pick them up at 1130 and get alaina on the bus by noon. It was just too much for me.

Since writing this paragraph i already had to get up and yell at alaina because she was getting into stuff. Now logan is sitting in the kitchen yelling.

I cant wait for their dad to come home so i cant have a break, shower alone... maybe get a full night of sleep.

Yeah its be bitching again and i am sorry but honestly this is what my life is like.. I may put on a smile and open the front door and act as everything is ok... but its not... i am soooo stressed out.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

My weight.

I hate my weight. When aaron married me i was 180. At the end of logans pregnancy i was 267. As of 10/24 i was 147. I hate that i have put on so much weight I want to be the thinner girl again.. the girl that didnt have troubles finding a man, finding a date. Not that i want to find a man or a date as i already have 1 and i absolutely love him. But i want that feeling again.

Since i was dx with MS my weight has just kept getting higher and higher... I have tried walking, swimming.. But i cant do much of anything else as i have other medical conditions that affect that.  I just want to be pretty and thin.. Not horribly thin.. But maybe a size 8? im a size 22/24 and i dont like it. I often just cry when i look in the mirror and i see me. I dont like me... I usually make jokes about my butt or my boobs because it is my way of dealing with the comments...

Change the way you eat they say... I would love to. I have tried.. but honestly its really hard when you dont like the taste of alot of things that are good for you. I have cut out cookies, and chips. Sometimes i eat candy but its maybe 1 or 2 peices a day instead of a 3lb bag of m&ms a day. I was drinking 12-24 cans of soda a day, but now its maybe 1 or 2, and if i have a bad headache maybe 3. Other then that no soda for me. Its lemonade or bottled water. Granted its cheaper to drink water out of the tap but i tend not to drink it that way. But if its in a bottle i will drink 3 or 4 a day. So for 3 dollars for 24 isnt bad.

I try to play and stay active with the kids and with a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old how can you not be active? I am constantly going from 1 appt to another and never really have time for myself. I think this sat, i am asking a friend if her older daughter can watch the kids so i can go out to dinner by myself. I just need that break.

I Know this blog is about alot of complaining and i am sorry but its my place to vent.. please speak up give me ideas . If you have read all of this and havent stopped reading my blog thank you sooo much!

good morning..

SO i bitch that i never get childcare and that i never have time to go to appointments.. and well i have one today for me and one for logan but honestly i feel like shit. And logan has a runny nose like a waterfall. So im not doing anything today..  ALaina has school today and all i have to say is thank god.. i need a break everyonce in awhile and today is one of them. Dont get me wrong i love my children but if you have never had to deal with them you wouldnt understand.

Logan tries so hard to play with this sister but she is so mean to him. Alaina she screams and throws things all freaking day long.. Sometimes i wish i had a normal child. One who could speak and talk to me. Instead of crying and screaming all the time. Like i said dont get me wrong i love both of my children..

Waiting for news from the hubby is killing me. i swear this FRG has no freaking clue what the heck they are doing and its irratating.. so usually i have to wait to hear things from my husband.

I need sleep. I am so tired... i dont get a good nights rest ever i sleep with alaina and i just want 1 night where i am not woken up by either kid for stupid reasons... my body cant handle this wake up because i need to  reposistion her or something..

i am so tired of feeling the way i do. I am tired of feelings depressed, i am tired of the anxiety. i am tired of all the pills. but i dont not like who i am when i am off of them.  Sometimes i swear these pills arent enough. I try so hard to be that good mom that doesnt yell at her kids.. but the anxiety kicks in and i havent been able to have a break and its just edging at me. Hello i havent showered alone since my husband left in july.

This weekend i asked a friend if her oldest can come sit with the kids while i go out for a few hours... just myself..

Im tired of holding all these feelings in. Im tired of trying to be the perfect mom.. Im tired of trying to be perfect for everyone.. Im not perfect.. My marriage isnt perfect, my kids arent perfect, my life isnt perfect... im tired...

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

my blog.

My blog has now become private.. if you were given the chance to read it and comment on it.. i hope that you take that time to be honest with me and actually comment.  This blog is going to become very honest and about who i really am..

Sunday, October 16, 2011

give me the strength.

I have been waking up from my very few and sparatic  hours of sleep i get in pain. This morning it was my whole right side. Please think of me and give me the strength to push the pain to the side and be able to get up with my kids tomorrow.. Please let the pain come back on a day that i can just take and lay in bed, and please hurry my husband home so we can get things taken care of and get back home where i have help if i need it like i do now. I thank all of my friends who have been there and offered to help in many ways... With out you this deployment would be unbareable. To my parents who put up with 938598437598348534 calls a day... I love you so very much and miss you guys like crazy.. I hope my siblings look at what they have and see that everyday they dont take the time to talk to you or say i love you is a day lost... What i would give to just give you guys a hug. To my husband  YOU are my reason... you are my love and i miss you so very much.

Thank you to all my readers.. there may not be many of you but if you do read... thank you!

My husband.

My husband is a simple man,  He loves outdoors, cooking, camping, fishing, and cars..  I love him so very much. We are currently in our 3rd deployment and every time he leaves i realize how much i love him. How much he means to me. Just how close of a friend he is.. today i am just emotional.